Framing Values into Our Kids

Framing Values into Our Kids

2005012

Topic # 2600

Introduction:

A. Pro. 22:6

1. Is there any truth to this proverb?

2. Sometimes we look at younger generations & wonder if godly values have to the wayside.

3. Wonder if there’s hope for the future…Yes…overly pessimistic outlook…

B. Godly values are relevant for everyday & age.

1. Live in a time when it easy to believe that traditional morality is just that…traditional, old fashioned, and out of style.

2. With a segment of society – truly an anything goes culture.

3. But…the more things change the more they stay the same.

a) God’s word is just as relevant today as it was centuries ago.

b) Today’s problems are the same problems generations past have experienced – just repackaged into a 21^st century wrapping.

4. We don’t need a new set of moral standards & guidelines – we just need a return to what God said all along.

C. Instilling these values into children is the responsibility of the parents. Not grandparents. Not teachers at school.

1. Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:20-21

2. Psa. 78:1-4

3. Need to teach them the contents of Pro. 11:19

4. And remind them of Pro. 11:20

D. This responsibility must not be ignored for any reason.

1. Think back to day your first child born.

2. Who wasn’t impressed w/the awesome task of being entrusted to nurturing & caring for another soul?

3. Truly humbling experience.

E. We are all building our own spiritual house.

1. Parents help w/the most important part of the structure – the framework for life.

2. Parents will be held responsible for the way they build!

3. Eli – 1 Sam. 3:12-13

a) Look at what happened to the household of Eli because of his passiveness as a father.

b) Because of the disobedience of his children.

4. A tragic example we must learn from.

F. Let’s go over 4 suggestions that will help your children build a strong moral foundation for life.

I. Remember…now is the time to start.

A. Well…they’re just too young to understand. They don’t realize what’s going on.

1. Children begin learning at the moment they are born.

2. While their understanding can be limited – their perceptions are being formed.

3. Their radar screen is always on – they’re always watching & observing what parents say/do.

B. From their youngest years – children respond mentally to things they see/hear.

1. They learn what is acceptable & not acceptable.

2. They learn how to respond and deal with their problems.

3. They learn how to handle conflict.

4. They develop patterns of learning.

5. Good habits – for life – can be developed at a very early age.

C. Deut. 6:5-7

D. Psa. 127:1-5 – psalmist talks about prospering with the Lord.

1. Children are a heritage from God. A reward. A blessing. Not burdens!

2. Start now…teaching them about respect & honor!

3. Start now … about honesty & integrity.

4. Start now … about the value of working to supply the needs & wants…

5. Psa. 127:4 – arrows.

a) During David’s time – arrows were a key defense & means of obtaining food.

b) Arrows had to be carefully formed & shaped to fly straight.

c) Likewise, children must be molded & shaped if they are to fly right!

6. Parenthood is more than begetting children & providing for their physical needs.

II. Teach them godly morals & values.

A. Children need to learn the need for respect.

1. Respect for those in authority over them.

2. Eph. 6:1-3; Col. 3:20 – parents & grandparents.

3. Rom. 13:1-7 – government

4. 2 Pet. 2:13-20 – all people.

B. Children need to learn about humility. Phil. 2:4-9

1. Many kids today far from humble. Feel they deserve whatever they want, whenever they want.

2. They need to learn about dependence on God & others!

3. Going along with this

C. Children need to learn to be thankful for what they have.

1. Thank God for many blessings.

2. Everything they have has been given to them by parents & ultimately God!

3. Thankfulness is expected! Col. 3:15; Psa. 50:14a; 1 Thess. 5:18; Eph. 5:20

D. Teach them about character & integrity.

1. 1 Tim. 1:5 – this is the goal of Christianity!

2. To be above reproach; blameless; w/o a hint of dishonor.

3. Easy out – cheat, steal, lie. These shortcuts come at a terrible price.

a) Lives forever damaged.

4. Never go wrong telling the truth.

5. Integrity is the bedrock of our influence & effectiveness in leading others.

E. Teach them to begin the day w/recognition of God. Psa. 118:24

1. An attitude of thankfulness.

2. An attitude/acknowledgement of the presence of God w/in ones life.

3. 1 Cor. 4:2 – they need to recognize they are a faithful steward of God. They need to know of the need to be faithful of their service to God.

III. Children need to learn responsibility.

A. Lazy generation; poor work ethic. Watch TV; Play Video Games; neglect important matters.

1. Group coming up that expects everything to be done for them.

2. Some cases – parents did everything for their children.

3. Some children never grow up.

B. It is man’s responsibility to work; provide for himself. Gen. 3:19

1. See also Eph. 4:28; 1 Thess 4:11-12; 1 Tim. 5:8

C. Going along with this our children must know they are responsible for their actions before God. Ezek 18:20, 30

1. 1 Cor. 3:8; Rev. 2:23b; Gal. 6:5

D. Challenge your children w/tasks that help them learn responsibility.

1. Expect the best. Expect them to succeed. Help them succeed by equipping them with the tools to succeed.

2. Learning responsibility helps build self respect & increases self worth.

3. Help them pursue excellence – never do anything half heartedly.

4. Eph. 6:6-8; esp. Col. 3:23-24

IV. You set the example. Walk by the Precepts You Teach.

A. What made Paul an effective preacher? Teacher? Apostle?

1. Why still talking about him today? Because of his example.

B. 1 Cor. 11:1; Phil. 3:17; 2 Thess. 3:9

1. Did his best everyday – knew others were looking to him for leadership.

2. Parents – your children are looking to you for leadership.

C. Phil. 4:9 – can you tell your children to do this?

1. Have they HEARD you go home & complain about the preacher or problems at church?

2. Have they SEEN in you some questionable behavior before God & men?

3. Have they RECEIVED a consistent portrayal of the life you lead?

Conclusion:

A. Psa. 127:3-5 – children are a blessing from God.

1. Are you molding & shaping the lives of your children so that they’ll fly right?

B. Let’s take our responsibility seriously.

C. God give us the possibility/tools to equip our children to be the best they can be.

1. Let’s get started today!

D. Is your life right in the sight of God?

E. I N V I T A T I O N



Framing Values into Our Kids 2005012 Topic # 2600 Introduction: A. Pro. 22:6 1. Is there any truth to this proverb? 2. Sometimes we look at younger generations & wonder if godly values have to the wayside. 3. Wonder if there’s hope for the future…Yes…overly pessimistic outlook… B. Godly values are relevant for everyday & age. 1. Live in a time when it easy to believe that traditional morality is just that…traditional, old fashioned, and out of style. 2. With a segment of society – truly an anything goes culture. 3. But…the more things change the more they stay the same. a) God’s word is just as relevant today as it was centuries ago. b) Today’s problems are the same problems generations past have experienced – just repackaged into a 21^st century wrapping. 4. We don’t need a new set of moral standards & guidelines – we just need a return to what God said all along. C. Instilling these values into children is the responsibility of the parents. Not grandparents. Not teachers at school. 1. Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:20-21 2. Psa. 78:1-4 3. Need to teach them the contents of Pro. 11:19 4. And remind them of Pro. 11:20 D. This responsibility must not be ignored for any reason. 1. Think back to day your first child born. 2. Who wasn’t impressed w/the awesome task of being entrusted to nurturing & caring for another soul? 3. Truly humbling experience. E. We are all building our own spiritual house. 1. Parents help w/the most important part of the structure – the framework for life. 2. Parents will be held responsible for the way they build! 3. Eli – 1 Sam. 3:12-13 a) Look at what happened to the household of Eli because of his passiveness as a father. b) Because of the disobedience of his children. 4. A tragic example we must learn from. F. Let’s go over 4 suggestions that will help your children build a strong moral foundation for life. I. Remember…now is the time to start. A. Well…they’re just too young to understand. They don’t realize what’s going on. 1. Children begin learning at the moment they are born. 2. While their understanding can be limited – their perceptions are being formed. 3. Their radar screen is always on – they’re always watching & observing what parents say/do. B. From their youngest years – children respond mentally to things they see/hear. 1. They learn what is acceptable & not acceptable. 2. They learn how to respond and deal with their problems. 3. They learn how to handle conflict. 4. They develop patterns of learning. 5. Good habits – for life – can be developed at a very early age. C. Deut. 6:5-7 D. Psa. 127:1-5 – psalmist talks about prospering with the Lord. 1. Children are a heritage from God. A reward. A blessing. Not burdens! 2. Start now…teaching them about respect & honor! 3. Start now … about honesty & integrity. 4. Start now … about the value of working to supply the needs & wants… 5. Psa. 127:4 – arrows. a) During David’s time – arrows were a key defense & means of obtaining food. b) Arrows had to be carefully formed & shaped to fly straight. c) Likewise, children must be molded & shaped if they are to fly right! 6. Parenthood is more than begetting children & providing for their physical needs. II. Teach them godly morals & values. A. Children need to learn the need for respect. 1. Respect for those in authority over them. 2. Eph. 6:1-3; Col. 3:20 – parents & grandparents. 3. Rom. 13:1-7 – government 4. 2 Pet. 2:13-20 – all people. B. Children need to learn about humility. Phil. 2:4-9 1. Many kids today far from humble. Feel they deserve whatever they want, whenever they want. 2. They need to learn about dependence on God & others! 3. Going along with this C. Children need to learn to be thankful for what they have. 1. Thank God for many blessings. 2. Everything they have has been given to them by parents & ultimately God! 3. Thankfulness is expected! Col. 3:15; Psa. 50:14a; 1 Thess. 5:18; Eph. 5:20 D. Teach them about character & integrity. 1. 1 Tim. 1:5 – this is the goal of Christianity! 2. To be above reproach; blameless; w/o a hint of dishonor. 3. Easy out – cheat, steal, lie. These shortcuts come at a terrible price. a) Lives forever damaged. 4. Never go wrong telling the truth. 5. Integrity is the bedrock of our influence & effectiveness in leading others. E. Teach them to begin the day w/recognition of God. Psa. 118:24 1. An attitude of thankfulness. 2. An attitude/acknowledgement of the presence of God w/in ones life. 3. 1 Cor. 4:2 – they need to recognize they are a faithful steward of God. They need to know of the need to be faithful of their service to God. III. Children need to learn responsibility. A. Lazy generation; poor work ethic. Watch TV; Play Video Games; neglect important matters. 1. Group coming up that expects everything to be done for them. 2. Some cases – parents did everything for their children. 3. Some children never grow up. B. It is man’s responsibility to work; provide for himself. Gen. 3:19 1. See also Eph. 4:28; 1 Thess 4:11-12; 1 Tim. 5:8 C. Going along with this our children must know they are responsible for their actions before God. Ezek 18:20, 30 1. 1 Cor. 3:8; Rev. 2:23b; Gal. 6:5 D. Challenge your children w/tasks that help them learn responsibility. 1. Expect the best. Expect them to succeed. Help them succeed by equipping them with the tools to succeed. 2. Learning responsibility helps build self respect & increases self worth. 3. Help them pursue excellence – never do anything half heartedly. 4. Eph. 6:6-8; esp. Col. 3:23-24 IV. You set the example. Walk by the Precepts You Teach. A. What made Paul an effective preacher? Teacher? Apostle? 1. Why still talking about him today? Because of his example. B. 1 Cor. 11:1; Phil. 3:17; 2 Thess. 3:9 1. Did his best everyday – knew others were looking to him for leadership. 2. Parents – your children are looking to you for leadership. C. Phil. 4:9 – can you tell your children to do this? 1. Have they HEARD you go home & complain about the preacher or problems at church? 2. Have they SEEN in you some questionable behavior before God & men? 3. Have they RECEIVED a consistent portrayal of the life you lead? Conclusion: A. Psa. 127:3-5 – children are a blessing from God. 1. Are you molding & shaping the lives of your children so that they’ll fly right? B. Let’s take our responsibility seriously. C. God give us the possibility/tools to equip our children to be the best they can be. 1. Let’s get started today! D. Is your life right in the sight of God? E. I N V I T A T I O N