Understanding Your Role in the Home

Understanding Your Role in the Home

2004023

Topic # 2543

Introduction:

A. Lesson by request.

1. Started out as Successful problem solving & evolved into the finished product which will be revealed here tonight.

2. Many problems teens face are inside the home – and want to specifically deal with those tonight.

B. First role we ever play in life is that of a child.

1. Very first relationship we sustain on earth is w/our parents.

C. Not much more important than this:

1. Why?

2. What happens w/them will have a huge impact in many other aspects of life.

3. How this relationship goes – can affect you for the rest of your life.

D. Scriptures are not silent on this matter.

1. Col. 3:20 is a matter of fact.

2. Not an optional matter! Especial is one has become a child of God in obedience to gospel.

3. We do need to be reminded of this!

4. Those still living at home under rule of parents need to remember 3 things:

a) Your parents love you.

b) They have an obligation to protect you.

c) They have an obligation to provide for you.

E. How to deal w/your parents?

1. Typed this in on website.

2. One site: how to hide facts from your parents if you practice witchcraft.

3. biased parents – if converting to Islam

4. Parents who have suffered through divorce.

F. While your parents have a role to play inside the home & may be contributing to a lack of harmony in the relationship – you need to be aware of your responsibilities as well!

I. Evaluate your relationship with your parents.

A. Garden of Eden? Sweet n Sour? Nice & easy? WWIII? Military School? Wall of Silence?

B. Why would you choose this phrase to describe the relationship w/your parents?

C. Why is it that teens sometimes have conflicts w/parents?

D. I encourage you to share your thoughts & answers to these questions w/your parents.

1. Don’t go home & and start an argument.

2. But YOU do YOUR part to improve the relationship! YOU have the responsibility to do this!

3. Relationship w/your parents does not have to be adversarial in nature!

4. But it can quickly turn into one if you let it.

E. How many times have your felt:

1. My parents don’t understand what it’s like to be a teenager?

2. My parents don’t give my any freedom to make my own choices?

3. My parents do not listen to me. All they do is jump on me.

4. I do not listen to my parents.

5. There’s no use in trying any more – My parents & I will NEVER see eye to eye.

6. My parents do not care about my problems – they do not want to be bothered.

F. Want to spend time tonight looking at Scriptures that can help you as you solve some of your problems you face at home.

1. Here are God’s instructions regarding your role as your parent’s child.

I. Pro. 1:8-9 – listen to your parents.

A. Whether you realize this or not, your parents want the best for you!

1. It is not their primary purpose in life to make you miserable!

2. They’ve been there & done that! They seek to give you better understanding in matters! Pro 4:1

B. Your parents can give you the best advice on earth!

1. Receive it w/readiness!

C. 1:9 – heeding your parents is honorable!

1. Picture of royalty here – as nobility & those in authority often wore necklaces around their neck.

II. Pro. 6:20-24 – Take what they say – SERIOUSLY.

A. Bind them on your heart. This is your responsibility.

1. Compare w/parental responsibility! Deut. 6:6-8. They have a responsibility & you do to!

2. Why so important?

B. 6:22-23 – your parents are training you for the rigors of life!

1. Again, they want you to succeed; prosper; to be happy!

2. Compare to Psa. 121:3-8 – just as God is your keeper – your parents are your keeper! They are responsible for you!

C. 6:23a – their instruction can be a light – illuminating the paths of life. They can guide you into the true path of faith & life.

1. May seem surprising – since they seem to be so unknowledgeable and incapable of understanding your world & problems.

2. Mark Twain: When I was sixteen, I thought my Father was the most ignorant man I had ever seen; but ten years later I decided he was brilliant.. I just wondered how the old man had learned so much in ten years.”

D. 6:23b – yes they will discipline – but it is for your good!

1. Heb. 12:7b; 9a; 11

III. Pro. 23:22-28 – Hold onto the godly principles your parents teach you!

A. Don’t part w/it!

1. Popularity; ease; pleasure; is not worth compromising your principles & morality.

2. To sacrifice & throw away these principles will cause you more regret than you can possibly imagine.

B. Lk. 15:11-16 – how many have possessed the attitude of the prodigal son?

1. Self willed? Have mind made up? Determined that warnings & admonitions of parents don’t apply, because it won’t happen to you?

2. Don’t you be the one who says “it won’t happen to me,” and then have to find out the hard way!

C. How many young couples – violated their principles – gave into lust – committed fornication – conceive a child?

1. How many thought: “we can stop at anytime.” “It won’t happen to us”

2. How many start down path of drug abuse by saying same thing?

3. How many young men/women party & have a few drinks & drive home drunk?

a) Steven Terrell, 17, Mooresville…

b) Did he think it wouldn’t happen to him?

D. If you’ve violated these principles – all is not hopeless!

1. Lk. 15:17 – come to your senses!

a) Admit the behavior is wrong! Admit & confess your sin!

b) Repent & seek God’s forgiveness!

c) Resolve that you will resist the temptation to engage in the behavior again.

E. Holding up godly principles is a noble thing!

1. Pro. 23:24-26

2. You can bring honor to your parents by growing into the men/women you should be.

a) You are a reflection of your parents.

b) Biography of great man/woman is a crowing point for parents!

c) Consider: you bring reproach on them when you don’t live up to what you should be.

IV. Eph. 6:1-3 – This is the right thing to do.

A. Please realize you are a servant of the household. You don’t run the show and you don’t call the shots.

1. 6:2 – HS says honoring your parents is the first commandment w/promise. How?

2. God knows that if children do not honor parents – they will not honor Him! How can one honor God w/o honoring parents?

B. Eph. 6:3 – you will be blessed for following through on this admonition!

Conclusion:

A. Col. 3:20 – God is well pleased when you understand your role in the home!

1. Your parents are NOT the adversary! Too often we waste valuable time trying to FIX your parents – and neglect living up to your role.

2. Remember, your parents should be among some of the best friends you ever have.

B. Don’t be stubborn. Yes there will be things you don’t want to do. That’s life! Get used to it.

1. Respect your parents – don’t be a source of conflict in the household.

C. There is no reason for anyone to describe their home life as :

1. WWIII

2. Military school

3. Wall of silence!

D. You have a role to play & many of you are doing a great job! Keep it up!

1. Continue glorifying Jesus by the way you’re living your life.

E. Do you need to start glorifying Jesus by becoming a Christian?

1. Do it tonight!

2. Need to get spiritual life back on track?

F. I N V I T A T I O N



Understanding Your Role in the Home 2004023 Topic # 2543 Introduction: A. Lesson by request. 1. Started out as Successful problem solving & evolved into the finished product which will be revealed here tonight. 2. Many problems teens face are inside the home – and want to specifically deal with those tonight. B. First role we ever play in life is that of a child. 1. Very first relationship we sustain on earth is w/our parents. C. Not much more important than this: 1. Why? 2. What happens w/them will have a huge impact in many other aspects of life. 3. How this relationship goes – can affect you for the rest of your life. D. Scriptures are not silent on this matter. 1. Col. 3:20 is a matter of fact. 2. Not an optional matter! Especial is one has become a child of God in obedience to gospel. 3. We do need to be reminded of this! 4. Those still living at home under rule of parents need to remember 3 things: a) Your parents love you. b) They have an obligation to protect you. c) They have an obligation to provide for you. E. How to deal w/your parents? 1. Typed this in on website. 2. One site: how to hide facts from your parents if you practice witchcraft. 3. biased parents – if converting to Islam 4. Parents who have suffered through divorce. F. While your parents have a role to play inside the home & may be contributing to a lack of harmony in the relationship – you need to be aware of your responsibilities as well! I. Evaluate your relationship with your parents. A. Garden of Eden? Sweet n Sour? Nice & easy? WWIII? Military School? Wall of Silence? B. Why would you choose this phrase to describe the relationship w/your parents? C. Why is it that teens sometimes have conflicts w/parents? D. I encourage you to share your thoughts & answers to these questions w/your parents. 1. Don’t go home & and start an argument. 2. But YOU do YOUR part to improve the relationship! YOU have the responsibility to do this! 3. Relationship w/your parents does not have to be adversarial in nature! 4. But it can quickly turn into one if you let it. E. How many times have your felt: 1. My parents don’t understand what it’s like to be a teenager? 2. My parents don’t give my any freedom to make my own choices? 3. My parents do not listen to me. All they do is jump on me. 4. I do not listen to my parents. 5. There’s no use in trying any more – My parents & I will NEVER see eye to eye. 6. My parents do not care about my problems – they do not want to be bothered. F. Want to spend time tonight looking at Scriptures that can help you as you solve some of your problems you face at home. 1. Here are God’s instructions regarding your role as your parent’s child. I. Pro. 1:8-9 – listen to your parents. A. Whether you realize this or not, your parents want the best for you! 1. It is not their primary purpose in life to make you miserable! 2. They’ve been there & done that! They seek to give you better understanding in matters! Pro 4:1 B. Your parents can give you the best advice on earth! 1. Receive it w/readiness! C. 1:9 – heeding your parents is honorable! 1. Picture of royalty here – as nobility & those in authority often wore necklaces around their neck. II. Pro. 6:20-24 – Take what they say – SERIOUSLY. A. Bind them on your heart. This is your responsibility. 1. Compare w/parental responsibility! Deut. 6:6-8. They have a responsibility & you do to! 2. Why so important? B. 6:22-23 – your parents are training you for the rigors of life! 1. Again, they want you to succeed; prosper; to be happy! 2. Compare to Psa. 121:3-8 – just as God is your keeper – your parents are your keeper! They are responsible for you! C. 6:23a – their instruction can be a light – illuminating the paths of life. They can guide you into the true path of faith & life. 1. May seem surprising – since they seem to be so unknowledgeable and incapable of understanding your world & problems. 2. Mark Twain: When I was sixteen, I thought my Father was the most ignorant man I had ever seen; but ten years later I decided he was brilliant.. I just wondered how the old man had learned so much in ten years.” D. 6:23b – yes they will discipline – but it is for your good! 1. Heb. 12:7b; 9a; 11 III. Pro. 23:22-28 – Hold onto the godly principles your parents teach you! A. Don’t part w/it! 1. Popularity; ease; pleasure; is not worth compromising your principles & morality. 2. To sacrifice & throw away these principles will cause you more regret than you can possibly imagine. B. Lk. 15:11-16 – how many have possessed the attitude of the prodigal son? 1. Self willed? Have mind made up? Determined that warnings & admonitions of parents don’t apply, because *it won’t happen to you?* 2. Don’t you be the one who says “it won’t happen to me,” and then have to find out the hard way! C. How many young couples – violated their principles – gave into lust – committed fornication – conceive a child? 1. How many thought: “we can stop at anytime.” “It won’t happen to us” 2. How many start down path of drug abuse by saying same thing? 3. How many young men/women party & have a few drinks & drive home drunk? a) Steven Terrell, 17, Mooresville… b) Did he think it wouldn’t happen to him? D. If you’ve violated these principles – all is not hopeless! 1. Lk. 15:17 – come to your senses! a) Admit the behavior is wrong! Admit & confess your sin! b) Repent & seek God’s forgiveness! c) Resolve that you will resist the temptation to engage in the behavior again. E. Holding up godly principles is a noble thing! 1. Pro. 23:24-26 2. You can bring honor to your parents by growing into the men/women you should be. a) You are a reflection of your parents. b) Biography of great man/woman is a crowing point for parents! c) Consider: you bring reproach on them when you don’t live up to what you should be. IV. Eph. 6:1-3 – This is the right thing to do. A. Please realize you are a servant of the household. You don’t run the show and you don’t call the shots. 1. 6:2 – HS says honoring your parents is the first commandment w/promise. How? 2. God knows that if children do not honor parents – they will not honor Him! How can one honor God w/o honoring parents? B. Eph. 6:3 – you will be blessed for following through on this admonition! Conclusion: A. Col. 3:20 – God is well pleased when you understand your role in the home! 1. Your parents are NOT the adversary! Too often we waste valuable time trying to FIX your parents – and neglect living up to your role. 2. Remember, your parents should be among some of the best friends you ever have. B. Don’t be stubborn. Yes there will be things you don’t want to do. That’s life! Get used to it. 1. Respect your parents – don’t be a source of conflict in the household. C. There is no reason for anyone to describe their home life as : 1. WWIII 2. Military school 3. Wall of silence! D. You have a role to play & many of you are doing a great job! Keep it up! 1. Continue glorifying Jesus by the way you’re living your life. E. Do you need to start glorifying Jesus by becoming a Christian? 1. Do it tonight! 2. Need to get spiritual life back on track? F. I N V I T A T I O N