Getting a Grip on Anger

Introduction:

Part of putting on new man is learning to control anger/wrath that can confront us regularly. There are fewer things that are harder to deal with, excused so often, or lead us to sin quicker – than a feeling of anger. Talk to many people who indicate that this is one of the most discouraging things they work on in life. Anger sometimes stays in ones heart & can affect joy/health. It can shatter communication between husband & wife; provoke children to wrath; and create turmoil w/in congregation. Often the question comes up: How can I deal with anger? How can I get better where I don’t blow up w/those I love – and my brethren?

I. Remember: Anger is not always _________________!

A. Anger: God given emotion to help solve problems ____________.

a) Paul/Peter in Gal. 2:11, 14; Jesus – Jhn. 2:13-17

B. See Eph. 4:26 –note context of 4:25-27

1. Expression of anger not condemned – but point here learning how to _____________ it.

C. Note also Mk. 3:5 – ___________ angry – but exercised self control.

D. Psa. 7:11 – even _________ gets angry.

E. Conclusion: Anger is justified when used as a proper expression of disapproval of _______ conduct; self defense; and is justified when one is upset over __________ behavior.

II. When does Anger Become ______________?

A. When the motivation is because of _________________.

1. Stop & think about motivation for getting upset b/f reacting!

2. Phil. 2:3-5 – _____________ the key! Selflessness is so important!

B. When it is allowed to _____________ or boil.

1. Eph. 4:26 warns against this. See Prov. 25:28; 29:22; Eccl. 7:9

C. When it attacks the _________ not the ________________.

1. This against Eph. 4:15, 20

2. Not put foot in mouth by saying something regretful.

III. What do we usually _______ with our anger?

A. Can blow up: divorce; ill health; ________________; even murder!

B. Can clam up/hold inside: depression; _____________; irritable; angry at God; self focused – no interaction with others.

Or….______ w/problem biblically.

IV. How Can I Get a Grip on my Anger?

A. Must recognize, admit the mistake/problem.

1. Expected to take _________ steps to make things right w/the ones we may have wronged! Mt. 5:23-24

B. Make room for the ______________ of God.

C. Rom. 12:20-21 – return ___________ for what you think is evil.

D. Eph. 4:15 – work ________________ to solve problems.

E. Js. 1:25 – expend ___________- on your part to get problem dealt with.

Conclusion

A. God’s way – best way to handle this. Will you submit to Him here?



Getting a Grip on Anger Introduction: Part of putting on new man is learning to control anger/wrath that can confront us regularly. There are fewer things that are harder to deal with, excused so often, or lead us to sin quicker – than a feeling of anger. Talk to many people who indicate that this is one of the most discouraging things they work on in life. Anger sometimes stays in ones heart & can affect joy/health. It can shatter communication between husband & wife; provoke children to wrath; and create turmoil w/in congregation. Often the question comes up: How can I deal with anger? How can I get better where I don’t blow up w/those I love – and my brethren? I. Remember: Anger is not always _________________! A. Anger: God given emotion to help solve problems ____________. a) Paul/Peter in Gal. 2:11, 14; Jesus – Jhn. 2:13-17 B. See Eph. 4:26 –note context of 4:25-27 1. Expression of anger not condemned – but point here learning how to _____________ it. C. Note also Mk. 3:5 – ___________ angry – but exercised self control. D. Psa. 7:11 – even _________ gets angry. E. Conclusion: Anger is justified when used as a proper expression of disapproval of _______ conduct; self defense; and is justified when one is upset over __________ behavior. II. When does Anger Become ______________? A. When the motivation is because of _________________. 1. Stop & think about motivation for getting upset b/f reacting! 2. Phil. 2:3-5 – _____________ the key! Selflessness is so important! B. When it is allowed to _____________ or boil. 1. Eph. 4:26 warns against this. See Prov. 25:28; 29:22; Eccl. 7:9 C. When it attacks the _________ not the ________________. 1. This against Eph. 4:15, 20 2. Not put foot in mouth by saying something regretful. III. What do we usually _______ with our anger? A. Can blow up: divorce; ill health; ________________; even murder! B. Can clam up/hold inside: depression; _____________; irritable; angry at God; self focused – no interaction with others. Or….______ w/problem biblically. *IV. How Can I Get a Grip on my* Anger? A. Must recognize, admit the mistake/problem. 1. Expected to take _________ steps to make things right w/the ones we may have wronged! Mt. 5:23-24 B. Make room for the ______________ of God. C. Rom. 12:20-21 – return ___________ for what you think is evil. D. Eph. 4:15 – work ________________ to solve problems. E. Js. 1:25 – expend ___________- on your part to get problem dealt with. Conclusion** A. God’s way – best way to handle this. Will you submit to Him here?