Role of the Husband/Wife in Marriage

Introduction.
Our series on the Godly family continues. It is important that each husband/wife understand the unique role they are to fill within the marriage relationship. Many problems in marriages today the result of a failure to understand the role that one is to play. Some women choose to rebel against the role that God intended them to have. Some men choose to not step up and be the leader in the home – as they should be! Text of study: From Gen. 12:1-5. Notice that Abraham was a godly leader in the family while Sarah a "godly responder." See also 1 Pet. 3:5-6 and Eph. 5:22-25. Are you fulfilling your role in marriage in a way that is pleasing to God?

I.. The Bible Speaks to Husbands. The Christ like husband:
    A. Leads from a standpoint of moral purity. 1 Pet. 2:21-23
        1. Phil. 2:15; Acts 22:12; Psa. 34:2; 119:1 – strive to have godly conduct!
        2. Moral purity commands respect!
    B. Is positively involved with his family.
        1. Look to Christ! Lk. 9:23 – got involved with the task at hand!
        2. Many husbands refuse to get involved with family. This not way God wants it!
    C. Leads by serving. Mt. 20:28
        1. Christians to be servant leaders – as demonstrated in Jhn. 13:3-17
        2. Didn’t get married just for wife to do chores, fix your supper, satisfy your needs!
    D. Leads by self sacrifice through unconditional love – Eph. 5:25-27
        1. Look to Christ! Christ loves us w/unconditional love!
        2. V. 25 – must be like that of Christ to the church.
        3. Do you love your wife just the way she is?
    E. Leads by tender kindness. 1 Pet. 3:7
        1. Understanding of her, patient, treating her w/honor as the weaker vessel.
      2. Eph. 4:32 applies to husbands!

II. The Bible speaks to wives. The Christ like wife:
   A. Responds voluntarily. Gen. 12:5; 1 Pet. 3:1-6
        1. How is your attitude? Would God be pleased?
        2. Observe Phil. 2:5-8 – Christ responded voluntarily to Father’s will.
        3. To be submissive means to acknowledge/respect God’s line of authority.
    B. Responds joyfully. Heb. 12:2
        1. Christ didn’t grumble, complain about the cross.
        2. No room for a bitter, begrudging attitude. Key to a happy home!
    C. Responds with honor. Phil. 2:9
        1. The submission of Jesus resulted in His being honored!
        2. Prov. 31:28-31 – follow in example of virtuous wife.

Conclusion.
   A. Husbands….are you the spiritual and servant leader in your home?
        1. Happy home when wife knows it your purpose to love her, serve her, etc.
    B. Wives...are you a godly responder in your home?
        1. 1 Pet. 3:4 – a gentle/quiet spirit is precious in the sight of God!
    C. God’s plan for the family/marriage relationship still works! Are you following His plan?

Thanks to Jim Deason of Larwenceburg, TN who contributed parts of the above outline



Role of the Husband/Wife in Marriage Introduction. Our series on the Godly family continues. It is important that each husband/wife understand the unique role they are to fill within the marriage relationship. Many problems in marriages today the result of a failure to understand the role that one is to play. Some women choose to rebel against the role that God intended them to have. Some men choose to not step up and be the leader in the home – as they should be! Text of study: From Gen. 12:1-5. Notice that Abraham was a godly leader in the family while Sarah a "godly responder." See also 1 Pet. 3:5-6 and Eph. 5:22-25. Are you fulfilling your role in marriage in a way that is pleasing to God? I.. The Bible Speaks to Husbands. The Christ like husband: A. Leads from a standpoint of moral purity. 1 Pet. 2:21-23 1. Phil. 2:15; Acts 22:12; Psa. 34:2; 119:1 – strive to have godly conduct! 2. Moral purity commands respect! B. Is positively involved with his family. 1. Look to Christ! Lk. 9:23 – got involved with the task at hand! 2. Many husbands refuse to get involved with family. This not way God wants it! C. Leads by serving. Mt. 20:28 1. Christians to be servant leaders – as demonstrated in Jhn. 13:3-17 2. Didn’t get married just for wife to do chores, fix your supper, satisfy your needs! D. Leads by self sacrifice through unconditional love – Eph. 5:25-27 1. Look to Christ! Christ loves us w/unconditional love! 2. V. 25 – must be like that of Christ to the church. 3. Do you love your wife just the way she is? E. Leads by tender kindness. 1 Pet. 3:7 1. Understanding of her, patient, treating her w/honor as the weaker vessel. 2. Eph. 4:32 applies to husbands! II. The Bible speaks to wives. The Christ like wife: A. Responds voluntarily. Gen. 12:5; 1 Pet. 3:1-6 1. How is your attitude? Would God be pleased? 2. Observe Phil. 2:5-8 – Christ responded voluntarily to Father’s will. 3. To be submissive means to acknowledge/respect God’s line of authority. B. Responds joyfully. Heb. 12:2 1. Christ didn’t grumble, complain about the cross. 2. No room for a bitter, begrudging attitude. Key to a happy home! C. Responds with honor. Phil. 2:9 1. The submission of Jesus resulted in His being honored! 2. Prov. 31:28-31 – follow in example of virtuous wife. Conclusion. A. Husbands….are you the spiritual and servant leader in your home? 1. Happy home when wife knows it your purpose to love her, serve her, etc. B. Wives...are you a godly responder in your home? 1. 1 Pet. 3:4 – a gentle/quiet spirit is precious in the sight of God! C. God’s plan for the family/marriage relationship still works! Are you following His plan? Thanks to Jim Deason of Larwenceburg, TN who contributed parts of the above outline